List the three most physically toxic habits you have (smoking, caffeine, not resting, sugar etc)
1. Not paying attention to what I eat (eating unconsciously, ignoring allergic reactions to foods, eating poor quality food)
2. Using caffeine in place of rest
3. Considering junk food an answer to all my problems
List the three most toxic mental habits you have:
1. Believing pessimism to be realism
2. Reacting impulsively to negative emotions and stress
3. Procrastination
List your three most toxic relationships. What purpose do they serve? What prevents you from giving them up?
1. FOOD – I don’t eat for reasons of hunger anymore, I eat both for pleasure and for punishment. I use it to numb both emotions and physical pain, but due to allergic reactions I often end up in worse pain for a few minutes of ‘high.’ I starve myself after I binge, or eat to the point of pain when something has gone wrong in my personal life. I can’t give it up because we obviously need food to live, so I can’t quit it like most people can quit their drugs of choice. I can, however, live happily with far less junk and more vegetables/fruits/lean protein/water.
2. MOM- My most toxic and most rewarding at the same time. I love my Mother to the point of codependency, knowing we keep each other from getting healthier and moving on in our lives. I don’t want to lose my closeness with my Mother, but I need to lose the extreme enmeshment if I want to improve my quality of life.
3. MEMORY OF D- D has become a legend in my own mind, and it’s for good reason: We had amazing times together. But he was also the source of a massive amount of pain and wasted time/opportunity. If I ever hope to have a healthy relationship that could lead to the marriage and kids I’d like, I need to de-deify D.
What would your life look like without these habits, relationships and toxic behaviors:
I have no idea, to the point that it’s actually scary. It’s strange that I don’t know how to see further into the future when all I do is worry about it and I am never living in the moment.